Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Gone for a Bit

It has been a little while since I have have posted here.  We have been busy with all things family this year.  We have been doing well.  We recently started with allowance for our kids.  I had checked out several ideas and thoughts on allowance and it seemed there were ideas about how allowance should not be connected to chores or behavior because you want you kids to learn to manage money and they should just have some no matter what.  Others are the opposite, so we decided to combine all in one.  What we did was give the kids a maximum number they could get, then broke this number into thirds.  First, the get one third of the number not matter what.  Second, the get one third if chores are done each week. Third, they get one third if their behavior is up to standard.

Shauna and I were our of town last week so the grandparents had to vouch for the kids chores and behavior, but I am optimistic that this will help our kids learn various lessons about money, work and behavior.

My Dad turned 80 in December and is in remarkably good shape as is my Mom.  I hope am as healthy when I turn 80.  To celebrate, earlier this year, we all decided to take a trip to Mexico without kids.  After some indecision, my sister Jenny took the bull by the horns and rented a house in Playa del Carmen on the Yucatan peninsula.  My brother and I decided to extend our vacations and booked some rooms at the Hyatt Ziva in Cancun after we left the Playa house.

Shauna and I used miles to book flights to Cancun and left on Friday. We stopped in LA and changed planes.  When we boarded the plane for Cancun, there were only about 30 people on the flight so we could stretch out.  We slept, read, and watch a movie (Bridge of Spies-good movie).  We arrived late and I had gotten a car to take us to Playa when we arrived.  (I was pretty excited because the guy was standing out side the gate with a plaque that said my name on it and I have always wanted that)  We got there and some guy grabbed our bags and took them twenty yards to the van and asked for a tip.  I gave him a five.  Pretty good money if you can get it.

We got to the house late, but almost everyone was still awake.  We talked for a bit and then hit the sack.  While we were there we hit the beach which had people of various stages of undress.  I am not too shocked by this stuff having traveled a bit in my life time.

On Sunday we went to church and it was fun to really get the Spanish going and practice a lot.  That afternoon we took a trip to Tulum and saw the complex civilizations that once lived there on the beautiful coast.  On Monday we went to Chichen-Itza and had a blast looking and bargaining.  Shauna wanted to by plates and stuff for the kids, but I was being stubborn and thinking everything was too expensive.  Shauna did end up buying several things, but I was excited to leave the vendors behind.  We also, saw the missionaries there.  It was really cool to see them and talk to them.  Three were from Mexico and one was from Layton, Utah.  It was a fascinating place and you wonder what life was really like there.  It gets romanticized a bit and it was probably just a lot of the daily grind with the occasional human sacrifice.

Playa is also a pretty mellow place compared to Cancun and all of its massive hotels.  I felt bad for all of the Mexican people that will likely never be able to enjoy their beaches and hotels because they do not make enough money to stay in them.  Our hotel--the Hyatt Ziva--was wonderful and the best location you can imagine.  The food in most places was subpar--I understand this is what you get with an all-inclusive and cruises--so I am not really that hot to go on a cruise now.  There were good food options, but I wish I could have known that going in, so I did not eat crappy meals.

The rooms and beach at the Hyatt were the best and we snorkeled right off of the beach and saw tons of fish: sting rays, spotted rays, barracuda and other colorful fish.  It was an awesome trip and I hope to go back sooner rather than later.



On our way.


Playa del Carmen.


Ahoy matey!


La Familia.


Church


The castle at Tulum.


Tulumites view.  Quite nice.


My padres and me.


Sol.


Always hungry.


Beach at Tulum


A bunch of these guys around.


The old ball court.


I hate to tell you, but...the winner dies.  (Umm, found out later this is wrong, The loser dies)


Shauna at Chichen -Itza.


The skull house.


My dad and us.


The temple.


Ik Kil.  The cenote. 


Capybara


Cool Frida Khalo art at playa.


Clubbing on the beach.


Lots of wildlife.


On the beach.


Nachos!


View from our hotel room at Cancun.


Underwater fish pictures.


Night view.


One pool.


On the jetty.


Snorkeling.


Lighthouse. 


The gang.

Friday, December 30, 2016

The New Year

Well, that was fast. It seemed like just a bit ago, the holidays were just winding up, and here we are heading in to the new year.  This year was way too busy and way to fast.  Things were a bit stressful with a family of four little guys (although Joaquin is growing like a weed) and the hustle and bustle of the season.  Through into that all of the December birthdays we have in our extended family and December is down right nuts.

We started out with great intentions and planned to do the Twenty-Five Days of Christmas that the LDS Church had prepared.  We talked about it during Family Night and put the calendar on the fridge. We started out well, but lost steam as we were overtaken by the holiday rush.

One thing we were able to do, was purchase and distribute treats and gift cards to various members of our church and neighborhood.  On the 19th we go together with the Gardners and put some plates together with treats.  We then paired some gift cards with a Christmas card, got our voices warmed up and delivered them, while singing Christmas carols.  Each family was very grateful and it was a very good experience for our kids and us.

We also attended Jim Gaffigan's comedy tour; went the Mormon Tabernacle Christmas program; attended Ruby's preschool Christmas program; had a Ward Christmas party; went to the neighborhood party at the Cheboski's; celebrated my birthday; celebrated my Dad's birthday with dinner and mariachi singing; and finally had Christmas Eve dinner at my parent's house before Christmas.

We had a bit more for our kids this year, but usually this is cyclical and next year will be more constrained as it should be.  I do not want our kids to think buying things brings joy and satisfaction, because it does not.  This year I have felt this even more. No matter what you buy the thing fades and will not last, but the relationships, memories and understanding of Christ are lasting and bring wonderful joy to a heart.

I am carrying this into the New Year and hope to be a better son, husband, father and employee.  I want to be brave and just look out more for other people.  Here's to a wonderful new year.


Arvidsons and us at the Conference Center


Lights


View from the Conference Center.  Merry Christmas!


Ruby's program.


Us at Jim Gaffigan.


Serenading my Dad on his birthday.


We sang along too.


Christmas Eve.


Little awesome angel.


Papa and Sam.


Cousins together.


PJ's from Nana and Papa.


Laney.


Friday, November 18, 2016

Its the Holiday Season!

It is hard to believe it has been an entire year since my last post in the run up to the Holidays.  I have already been listening to Christmas music and it feels good.  I have tried to keep it to a minimum so as not to ruin it.

I have been reflecting on the goodness and importance of this season and why it means so much to me.  I don't remember gifts or things that I have given--I remember the feelings--peace, joy, love, comfort, elation, and contentment.  Yes, the time of the year can get out of hand with all of the events and commercialization of everything.  We have been working on the Ward Christmas party and a lot of people don't want to do it because they are worried about living up to last year's party.  We all feel like this sometime, but it is the spirit and light of the Savior that make all of this special.  I hope we can get that and hang on to it.

I have thought a lot about being grateful and thankful for all that we have then taking the next step and sharing it with others.  I am not the most charitable guy and have always been careful with my money--a little like Scrooge. However, we have always been mindful during this time of year to be generous and share.  To be honest, sometimes I don't even think of it, but fleeting thoughts and ideas because we are so busy with all of our activities. As I have referenced in the past--just take some time to sit down and slow down.  Take it all in and reflect on it for a few minutes.

The sites and sounds are here and it makes me feel a debt of gratitude that cannot be repaid.  And in reality it should not be repaid--that takes the goodness and service out of it and thus the spirit of mercy, sacrifice, and love.  What He really wants us to do is pass it along to others.

Hope we have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas.




Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Family Vacation

We had been planning and replanning our biggest family trip so far because the timing was not quiet right with a baby in the family.  Finally earlier this year in January, we pulled the trigger and paid for flights to Kauai.  Shauna's parents have an timeshare at the Marriott in Lihue.  We have been several times before, but not with the entire family.  This time was the first time for Ruby and Sam.  

Needless to say getting a crew of six (four of which need various levels of help) is somewhat of an undertaking.  We were able to cut down on some of the cost because Shauna and I both got Southwest cards and were able to basically pay for all of us to fly free to San Jose were we caught our flight to Kauai. We spent the night in Cupertino and then woke up a 4 am to get ourselves to the airport for our 7 am flight.  All the kids were pretty good, but Laney had a melt down because she was tired and Joaquin told her if she did not get out of bed, we were going to leave her.  Well that did not go over well and she sobbed and sobbed out of bed and into the van.  

The time we were most worried about arrived as we left San Jose with a 15-month-old baby on a 5-hour flight who had thrown up a couple of times two night earlier.  He took a short nap, but was soon up and moving.  He was pretty good most of the flight--we just traded him back and forth and brought snacks, books, and toys for him.  Toward the end of the flight he started to get fussy and I has been smelling gas for the past 30 minutes or so, but he did not have a dirty diaper.  Well, soon it was getting too fragrant and since Shauna was in the isle seat she had to take him.  Several minutes later Shauna arrived and gave me that killer gaze that says--If I could I would rip your head off right now if I could.  She explained that Sam had diarrhea and it was on is clothes and legs.  Fortunately we were not far out and we soon landed without more incidents.  The kids were good because we brought media and coloring books that kept them completely occupied the entire flight.  

We landed and as we got near the door to deplane, I started to sweat just sensing the humidity.  We got off the plane and gathered up all the luggage and carseats and made our way to some benches.  The wives and kids stayed at the bench while John and I went to the rental car lot to pick up the cars.  Well, as I was standing in line I realized that I had taken my driver's license out of my wallet and put it in my carry on when we went through security.  So, here I am already sweating and I need to run the quarter mile back to the bags and get my license.  It is also, 11 am Hawaii time.  Well, there I went,  I had to run because there were only a couple of people in front of us.  I took off running and was able to find my way there (Kauai has a tiny airport) and grabbed my license and headed back.  John was at the counter and I was able to join him and not have to wait in line.  I was sweating like crazy and was glad when I could get in the car and turn on the AC.  I noticed that I was fine if there was a breeze, but if there was no breeze I was hot and sweaty.  

We went to Costco and got groceries so we would not have to eat out every meal, which is very expensive.  This is the ideal thing to do so you don't come home with a credit card bill of $4,000 because you had to eat out.  We hung out at the beach and pool until the room was ready.  We got into the room and rested a bit before we went back down to the beach to walk around.  

The next day we hit it hard (after everyone woke up at 4:30 because of the time change) and ate breakfast and then went to the pool and beach for pretty much the whole morning.  We came back for lunch and then hit hard again in the afternoon. The beauty of the Marriott in Lihue is that the pool and beach are just feet from each other.  You can get sandy and salty at the beach and then just walk to the pool, rinse off and jump in.  

We generally hung around the hotel given it has everything you need, however, we did take the kids and visits a couple of places on two separate days. We also, celebrated John's and Joaquin's birthdays while we were there.  We were afraid we might have to postpone the celebrations when John got sick. It was short lived and continued on our merry way.  

We drove to Waimea canyon one day and also the spouting horn.  These are pretty cool places and made for a nice change from the sun and water.  We also tried to go to Ko'kee State Park to look down on the Napali Coast, but it was raining heavily and we jumped out and took a quick look and all you could see was the faint surf on the beach way down below.  

We celebrated Joaquin's birthday by going to Duke's and have fish and Hula Pie.  This was Joaquin's request when we asked him what he wanted for his birthday dinner.  I thought it was pretty cool and we had a great time.  

In addition to all of these activities, we also went to the tide pools on the west side of the beach and found sea urchins, fish, sea slugs and star fish.  We captured a few of these things.  Laney also saved a fish the washed up on the rocks.  She put it in a bucket and eventually released it.  

One day we went Poipu and went snorkeling.  There was a Monk seal there and the kids thought that was pretty cool.  The surf was pretty rough so the kids had a hard time getting out to see fish.  They did find a place that was more sheltered, but it was right next to a small coral reef and Joaquin cut his foot on the coral.  It was not bad and--planning pays off--we brought our little first aid kit and put a bandage on it right away.  

Shauna and I went running often and went to the little gym a couple of days as well.  I can see how in such a place (if you have money) you could be in the best shape of your life.  We swam, did sprints on the beach and ran around the grounds 4.5 miles.  The weather is great and even if it rains it will not stop you because it is more or a misting than rain.  

We went to church on Sunday along with a bunch of other tourists and were greeted warmly by the locals, and as is this ward's tradition, the gave all of us a lei made out of yarn.  We kept all of them, so when we go back to see these wonderful saints, they don't need to give us another one.  

We were sad to leave, but we have lots of reasons to come back and visit.  God's creations are wonderful and inspire the human mind.  Loved every minute of it.  




Family Picture at the Marriott


Joaquin the clown at the San Jose airport the morning we left.


On the way to Kauai.  


Watching a movie on the Ipad.


View from parking lot of Safeway.  We had just arrived and I was loving it.


Gardens at the Marriott


Kalapaki Beach


Walking around the night we arrived.


Wide awake and ready to go in the morning.


Kids at the pool.


Kids at the beach.


Laney with the starfish. 


Close up of Spike.


Enjoying the weather and sand.


Sandcastle and beach.


Kids at play.


Laney and Sam playing on the balcony.


Sam loved it out there and loved to throw stuff off.


Playing.


The kids and Shauna made Grandpa a Happy-Birthday sign.


Ruby loved the hot tub and the water not so much.  It was refreshing and cool. 


Celebrating Grandpa's birthday as Cafe Portofino.


It was 12 o'clock midnight our time.


John and Sandra


The Spouting Horn.


Waimea Canyon.  Pretty impressive.


It seems hard for such a large canyon to be on such a small island.


Mom and Dad.


Looking the other way.


The Family.


The kids drinking a coconut we bought for $10! Man you get dumb on vacation.



Relaxation time.


He is thinking about getting in.


Looking back at the hotel.


Celebrating Joaquin's birthday.


Sam up at 4;30 am. Took him for a walk to let others sleep.


The tube was a blast in the waves.


Shauna wanting not wanting to get in.


Love the warm ocean.


Monk Seal at Poipu.


Hang loose brah!


He really liked this handicapped chairlift thing.


Sunset.


Church


Gardens.


Exploring the beach.


The beautiful love of my life.  Love you Honey.


Passed out at breakfast.


Going home.  Sad.


Joaquin's tikki.  He left it at the airport.


Happy baby.


400 pound man.  Who is this?


Panorama of the hotel and beach.



















































































Shauna, Paul, and Joaquin Mayer

This is the Mayer Family blog. This is our attempt to keep a record for ourselves of the happenings of our family. It is also an attempt to make it easier for our family and friends to see pictures and get updates.

Joaquin and Papa play

Joaquin and Papa play
Joaquin and Papa play

Running in the sand

Running in the sand
Running in the sand

Sitting on the sand bench

Sitting on the sand bench
Sitting on the sand bench

big boy

big boy
I'm a big boy now!

bath

bath
Getting ready for my bath with daddy

dad and his hat

dad and his hat
I look cool in dad's hat